You'rE a Catholic mom raising kids who are, well, different.
They crave knowledge.
They're fiercely creative.
And their sensitivity? One word: INTENSE.
You love them, but some days you aren't sure you actually like them. The disorganization. The anxiety. The meltdowns that make it hard to connect.
You wonder - perhaps God chose the wrong woman to mother exceptional children?
He didn't - and I'm going to tell you the truth here, mama:
God Gives curious, creative, intense children the exact mother they need.
As a Catholic mom to gifted and off-the-wall homeschoolers, your blog has been an absolute breath of fresh air. You don’t hide your struggles or the truths of your experiences and in turn, we feel comfortable and confident in ours (struggles and all!); you provide a gentle, fun, safe space to interact with other parents; you are the ultimate encourager and I just love your sense of humor and how it intertwines with daily life. Thank you for what you bring to the conversation (and for STARTING the conversation!).
I just want you to know that I LOVE every post you have. Seriously! Just this weekend, reading your post-mass reflection, I thought to myself ‘It’s like she’s reading my soul!’ I have a 2E 11 year old and also 8 and 5 year olds. You are so inspirational. Thank you for all you do.
When you join the Not So Formulaic community, you'll break through the overwhelm of life with gifted and Twice-Exceptional kids.
You'll not only learn to identify and serve your child’s gifts and challenges – you’ll discover how to build a mother-child relationship built on holiness and grace.
Hey there - I'm Ginny. And Mama, I know what it's Like.
Gifted kids are supposed to be perfect – the leaders, the straight-A students from kindergarten on. But our first day of kinder included a meltdown and elopement from the stuffy basement classroom.
We tumbled downhill from there.
Friends’ children were thriving in the classroom. At church, other mothers sat peacefully with their kids. I could barely keep it together with two intense, unusual children: the six-year-old could read Tolkien but spent most of her day in the principal’s office. The two-year-old had so much anxiety it was a wonder we left the house at all.
I tried everything. We read virtue stories and Scripture. We had star charts and books about the saints. We did testing and evaluation, plus the requisite occupational and physical therapy. But despite all that, we still had phone calls about problem behavior.
I didn't realize giftedness comes with extras, and Those Extras are an opportunity for Grace
The more I learned about 2E kids and giftedness, the more our imperfections became the face of God. We were the people God intended from the moment of our conception: intensely curious, creative, beautiful children, and a mother with a heart for the Lord.
Where once I doubted myself and my children, God’s grace has proven we’re on a journey that’s unrepeatable and unique. I love it, and my mission is to share this truth with other women who are doubting this life of intense opposites.
you, my friend, are not a failure.
your children are not broken.
You are their first advocate, their first educator, their first spiritual director. They love you and are learning from the truth of your example, even when everything feels shattered at your feet.
Thank you for sharing your heart in a public space for moms like me. Your post this morning about Mass brought me to tears. I read it aloud to my husband as we drove home from Mass and he was moved as well.
I will be forever grateful for your bravery. I’m a better wife and mother because you give me insight that is so very relatable. Your honesty and clarity of wisdom into faith and parenting really resonates and guides me through the day to day. I owe my brighter future to the things you openly share and the way you reflect and make sense of the crazy things around us.
As a member of the Not So Formulaic Community, you and your children will thrive.
You'll learn valuable skills for communicating with your kids and advocating for them while bringing your whole family closer to Christ.
I know you might be feeling defeated, but mama, you are not alone
This corner of the web belongs to you and other moms just like you - Catholic women raising gifted and Twice-Exceptional kids.
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